In January 2018, an 8 year old girl Asifa from Kathuadistrict of Jammu and Kashmir, went out to graze her horses little did she knew
the horrors she was going to face. Her innocence was torn apart; her body was
tormented beyond the limits any human could ever bear. One such similar
incident happened in Unnao district of Uttar Pradesh. All of it done was just
to quench sexual desires by sexual predator. Who cannot differentiate between a
child and a woman, what this child was reduced to was just a walking vagina to
them. This Kathua and Unnao rape case incident has put the nation in a state of
shock.
Who is to be blamed for rape cases and sick Incidents of
similar nature, the Government, the rapists, the victim herself or the society
that we live in? Let us make it easier for you to understand who is at fault by
taking each and every factor into consideration to be at fault. The Government
cannot be fully blamed for rape cases as the government is an image of its
people itself. The victim who has been traumatized and has to live with this
for her whole life and also has to face flak from the society can in no way be
deemed as the culprit and calling her as such would be immoral based on her
dressing sense or why was she out of the home at any time and any place. Coming
to the Rapist and Society, as you could see how society plays a role in every
factor be it Government, Victim or the Rapist you all can draw a single term
coherent with all the three i.e. Society, which stays at the epicenter of these
cases and needs to be blamed for these rape cases majorly. As Rapists originate
from the Society itself, here we need to also look into what condition does
come into force that leads one person to commit such heinous act. We need to understand the basics factors or
strands of the psychology that encourages one to do such a thing and one thing
stands tall as the sole reason i.e. Patriarchy.
Patriarchy is so deeply embedded in our cultures our society
that one does not need to go into remote areas of our country to watch
patriarchy come into practice, we can simply observe patriarchy defining our
very lives in our very homes. Where women are subjugated and are just seen as
good for cooking, bearing children and are always seen as lower to men in every
aspect. Women are killed in the name of male honor, they are not allowed to get
themselves educated, they are stalked and what not. But it does not matters to
us as it is not happening to us, but it is happening all around us, in Metro’s,
buses, colleges, offices, streets, etc. What should be done to ensure all of
this does not happen?
Death
is the punishment demanded by many for giving justice in such grave incidents
but it would not have much of an impact as it should have as death penalty may
kill the accused but the thought process may not be killed, this community of
sick rapists would stop for a while but would again come out to commit this
brutality. The day Indian families we stop treating boys as superior or more
precious than girls, more than half of the problem can get rectified here
another half would need structural reforms in education, families and society
to battle this problem or it would soon plague every household of the country.
After which no one would be left to be blamed for rape cases in our country and
we’ll notice more and more incidents like Kathua and Unnao even on our streets.
So it
is a request to all of you to dissolve these barriers of patriarchy and unite
against the common enemy! Let us teach our children, brothers, friends,
relatives meaning of consent, meaning of a "NO" so, that no other has
to suffer Nirbhaya, Asifa, and the names are just piling up, and is bring shame
to the country of Kalpana Chawla, Saina Nehwal, Indira Gandhi and every woman
achiever that has ever lived.
